Tip to Fix It: Make a habit of the 5:1 rule—aim for five positive comments for every one constructive critique. This builds a foundation of gratitude that keeps him coming back to you.
2. Neglecting Emotional Intimacy
Physical closeness is great, but emotional connection is the glue. If conversations stay surface-level or you’re too busy for deep talks, he might seek understanding elsewhere. Share your dreams, fears, and daily wins to create that unbreakable link.
Tip to Fix It: Set aside “no-phones” time each evening for real heart-to-hearts. Ask open-ended questions like, “What was the best part of your day?” to foster vulnerability and closeness.
3. Taking Him for Granted
After years together, it’s common to assume he’ll always be there. Skipping “thank yous” or forgetting special gestures can make him feel invisible. Remember, everyone craves acknowledgment.
Tip to Fix It: Surprise him with small acts of kindness—a handwritten note, his favorite snack, or planning a date night. These reminders show he’s valued and irreplaceable.
4. Comparing Him to Others
Whether it’s an ex, a friend’s partner, or a celebrity, comparisons sting and breed resentment. Phrases like “Why can’t you be more like him?” highlight flaws instead of celebrating his unique strengths.
