Start arguments
Bring up old family issues
Attempt to control or disrupt the service
Funerals should be peaceful, not a battleground for personal grudges.
4. People Attending for the Wrong Reasons
Anyone coming out of:
Curiosity
Gossip
Social appearances
Self-promotion
These people don’t bring comfort; they exploit grief for their own motives.
5. Ex-partners or Estranged Friends (Case-by-case)
If their presence would cause discomfort or pain to the immediate family (especially spouses, children, or parents), it’s okay to kindly ask them not to attend — or to come to a separate memorial.
Example: An ex-spouse showing up uninvited when their presence would upset the widow/widower.
6. Anyone Under the Influence
People who are known to show up intoxicated or behave erratically under alcohol or drugs can ruin a sacred event.
If someone has a history of this behavior, it’s reasonable to proactively ask them not to come.
